Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Characteristics of a Biblical Dating Relationship

Ever wondered what a Biblical dating relationship looks like? In our society today, many people are confused about how to build and maintain good relationships. Even in the church there is a lot of confusion on this issue, and many Christian singles wonder whether they are doing things right or not. I’ll not attempt to give a step-by-step formula, but here are some essential characteristics of a Biblical dating relationship for your consideration. I’ll just list them now as food for thought and later go into more depth on each one.

A Biblical dating relationship is…
§  Pure
§  Respectful
§  Accountable
§  Based on good communication and trust
What do you think these terms mean within a dating relationship? Are there any other characteristics that should be included in this list? Can you think of practical ways to include these characteristics in a relationship? How would you examine a relationship to see if it meets all of these criteria? What happens when a relationship is missing any one of these characteristics?
I'll be talking about each of these characteristics in more depth over the next few weeks so stay tuned.

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Thursday, June 7, 2012

Chicken Pie


This recipe is a quick, easy, and delicious way to use leftover chicken. I typically use leftover chicken from my roast chicken dinner or from a rotisserie chicken. You can also boil chicken specifically for this recipe. The good thing about this recipe is that it is easily flexible to use whatever amount of chicken you have. For that reason, consider the measurements given as a rough guideline. This recipe yields a 9x13 pan, but it can be easily adjusted.



About 4 to 4-1/2 cups cooked chicken, chopped
1(26 oz) family size can cream of chicken soup
3 cups chicken broth (or 1 can of broth, using the can from the soup)
2-1/2 cups milk
About 4 cups biscuit baking mix (e.g. Bisquick) 

Place the chopped chicken in the bottom of a 9x13 pan (for this recipe). You can also use a large casserole dish if you prefer.



Mix the cream of chicken soup and chicken broth together and pour over the chicken in the pan.



Mix the milk and biscuit baking mix to form a soft dough. You want it a little thinner than normal biscuit dough. Dollop it on top of the soup mixture until the surface is pretty well covered.



Bake at 400○F for 40-45 minutes or until the top is well browned and the biscuit topping is not gooey inside. Serve with your favorite veggie (green beans or peas work well). Enjoy!



Note: To adjust the recipe for other amounts of chicken, simply adjust the amount of chicken soup mixture and biscuit topping used. Use approximately equal volumes of soup and broth and keep the biscuit topping a little thinner than regular biscuit dough. For example, for an 11x7 pan, you might use about 3 cups chicken, 2 (10.5 oz) cans of cream of chicken soup, 2-1/4 cups broth, 1-3/4 cups milk, and 3 cups baking mix. If you have a little more or less soup mixture or biscuit topping, it doesn’t make a big difference. You just don’t want it too dry.

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Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Reflections on Two Years of Marriage

Yesterday was my anniversary. My husband and I have been married for 2 years now (where did the time go, anyway?), and I've been doing a little reflecting on this journey of life we're on together.

I like that word "together." I like being a team with my husband. I like the way we make decisions together, spend time together, work together, relax together, and dream together. Marriage is a wonderful thing.

People often say that the spark will fade eventually, that the excitement of being married will die. Well, so far, it hasn't happened to us. Being with my husband and sharing life together still thrills me. My heart still does little flip flops when he looks at me or touches me. It's a little different now than when we were first married, because we're used to each other. But it hasn't grown old or stale. It just gets better because we know each other even better. Our intimacy has grown and deepened. We're more a part of each other now than we've ever been and we love each other more than ever. I hope we always feel this way about each other (and I think we will, as long as we take time to appreciate each other).

Two years ago, on our wedding day, we were so in love and excited to be finally married. We were finally free to jump into life together with gusto, finally free to express the desires of our hearts. But our love is deeper now, and stronger, than it was then. We know each other better now. Then, we had the thrill of the unknown and the excitement of discovery. Not that we were strangers. On the contrary, we knew each other quite well. But there’s a certain knowing that only comes from living together day in and day out, seeing each other in every aspect of life, being one. This more mature love doesn’t have to replace the old excitement (at least not completely). It was meant to add to the love that a husband and wife share. And it just gets better and better as time goes on.

A lot has happened these last two years. The biggest change was the arrival of our little girl last November. A baby sure changes things. But having a child doesn’t have to drive a wedge between a husband and wife. We’ve actually found that we’ve grown closer as we learn to be parents together. We’ve had to be careful to always put each other first, even over being a parent, and to talk things over together. Making time for each other can be difficult at times. Reagan has a knack for waking up at the most inopportune moments. But spending time together is a priority for us and we make it happen on a regular basis.

I think one secret to keeping the spark alive is to take time to appreciate each other. If you take each other for granted, if you forget to be thankful for each other, it’s so much easier to become dissatisfied and discouraged. A grateful heart is a happy heart. That’s true in general, but especially true in marriage. And, of course, it’s not enough to simply feel grateful – you have to tell each other of your appreciation. This can be done through words, gestures, and even writing love notes (yes, I took my own advice and wrote one for my husband yesterday). My husband and I take time to tell each other of our love and appreciation on a regular basis and it has kept us close.

So, here we are beginning our third year of marriage. I’m looking forward to what this next year will bring. I’m confident that this year will be even better than the last – that we will grow even closer to each other as we learn even more about each other. It is our desire and plan to spend the rest of our lives learning to love each other more.



How about you? What tips do you have for keeping the spark alive in a marriage?

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Friday, June 1, 2012

No Crust Pumpkin Pie


I make this pumpkin pie year round. It’s probably the easiest pie recipe I have, and it tastes great! My husband loves it (he’s not a fan of piecrusts anyway) and I get compliments at church dinners when I bring this. There’s no crust to worry about. Just mix the ingredients, pour in a pie plate, and bake. It’s the same recipe often known as “Impossible Pumpkin Pie” that supposedly makes its own crust (with a little bit different spice mixture). It doesn’t make a crust, it just gets firm enough not to need one.




1 (15 oz) can pumpkin
1 (12 oz) can evaporated milk
2 eggs
3/4 cup sugar
1/2 cup baking mix (e.g. Bisquick)
2 tablespoons butter, melted
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
2-1/2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon

Mix all ingredients until well blended (you can do this with a mixer or in a blender). Pour into a greased 9-inch pie plate. Bake at 350○F for 50-55 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean.



Serve with ice cream or whipped cream (or both).


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Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Sunday School Fairy Tales (or Why the Bible Should be Taught as History)

Those of us who grew up in church have many fond and nostalgic memories of the Bible stories we were taught. We remember David and Goliath, Sampson and Delilah, Noah’s Ark, Jesus and the Feeding of the Five Thousand, Baby Moses in the Bulrushes, Zacchaeus the Wee Little Man, and many others. The problem is, we often have the same fond memories of many other childhood stories like Cinderella, The Frog Prince, Jack and the Beanstalk, and The Emperor’s New Clothes. Both sets of stories were short, entertaining, and had some moral lesson. They were often surprising or funny. They had kings and miracles. Their heroes did great and marvelous deeds. Unfortunately, we may not have understood that one set of stories was completely made up while the other is entirely true historically.

Now, many of us grew up and learned the difference between truth and fairy tales. We know that the Bible is true. We take it seriously now. But some children grow up and are told (often in school or in college) that the Bible is just a collection of myths. At best, it was a collection of tales passed down for many years and full of wishful thinking and primitive beliefs (or so they are told). And if those people haven’t learned better – if they have not been shown the historical evidence for the truth of the Bible – they often fall prey to this faulty view.

To help prevent this from happening, it is important to teach the Biblical account, not Bible stories. They aren’t “stories,” they’re true. There are several very serious problems with teaching the Biblical account as stories.

1.      Inaccuracies often creep in
When you try to turn the Biblical account into a cute bedtime story, it is easy to accidentally add incorrect details or omit important ones. This can lead to an inaccurate understanding of what really happened. In some cases, this mythical version of the Biblical account can be very persistent.

For example, how many of you have heard the story of David and Goliath and heard something like this: “David was a little boy, just like you, and look what he could do with God’s help.” David was a little boy when he killed Goliath? The Bible doesn’t say that. In fact, it is quite clear that David was an adult at the time, and a very strong and tough one at that. He was a young man (and the youngest of the family), but not a little boy. He had already killed a bear and a lion with his bare hands before he fought Goliath. He cut off Goliath’s head with Goliath’s own sword after killing him. That sword, if it was anything like Goliath’s other weaponry, would have been large and heavy. And, of course, David’s reward for killing the giant was to marry King Saul’s daughter. He must have been of marriageable age. Anyway, the picture of David as a young boy of 8 or 9 when he killed Goliath is one that often persists, even among those who know the Bible well. If people would teach the account correctly, this wouldn’t happen.

There are also lots of examples of things that may not be expressly taught incorrectly, but cause misunderstanding. For example, pictures in children’s Bible story books usually show all the Biblical characters as white, Jesus as nearly effeminate (pale skin, angelic features, long hair), and Noah’s Ark as a tiny boat with animal heads sticking out every window. These views are ridiculously naïve and are certainly not what the Biblical account depicts.

2.      The Bible becomes sensationalized
The Bible does contain some amazing and miraculous events. There’s nothing wrong with teaching children about the remarkable things that God has done and marveling at His power. That is a good thing. But if the only parts of the Bible that are taught are the “exciting” or “amazing” parts, children will not get the full picture of all that the Bible teaches. They get only the sensationalized version, which sounds a lot like a fairy tale, not real life.

This sensationalization, together with inaccuracy, often leads to what my husband and I call the “Sunday School Fairy Tale” version of the Bible. It is a superficial and warped view of what the Bible says. When you come across someone who rejects the Bible as being a book of myths, you will usually find that what they object to as being so unrealistic is this fairy tale version of the Bible rather than the real thing. The problem is, they usually don’t know the difference. They don’t know how to see the Bible in realistic terms because no one has ever shown them.

3.      The Biblical account is not given its proper historical context
A big part of helping children (and others) to understand the historical nature of the Biblical account is including discussion of its historical context. Don’t just emphasize the moral lesson, talk about it as history. When children are taught about George Washington, Nero, Florence Nightingale, Genghis Khan, or any other historical figure, we talk about when they lived, their culture, their motivation, their language. In short, we put them in historical perspective and we talk about them as real people with real lives. Why don’t we do that with Biblical figures?

How often do you hear someone talk about what year the Flood happened? Whether dinosaurs were on the ark? Who Cain married? Why Eve didn’t freak out when a snake talked to her? Where the Garden of Eden was (there’s no way of knowing that, by the way)? Have you ever wondered why Jonathan didn’t hate David? Where the different races came from? Why God instituted animal sacrifice? Why Jesus came when He did? Why the particular 66 books of the Bible are Scripture and other ancient texts aren’t? These and many others are questions that today’s young people wrestle with. And they often are not getting answers.

If we neglect to talk about the Biblical account in realistic terms, we aren’t preparing our youth to answer the questions they will undoubtedly have. If they go long enough with unanswered questions, if they can’t figure out how what the Bible says can possibly make sense, many will start to wonder if it is really true. While we may not be able to answer every question definitively, we can at least have a serious discussion and offer reasonable possibilities for consideration. Without such reasonable discussion, why should they find it reasonable to believe it?

This is especially true of the book of Genesis. There are many questions that will be asked about the Biblical account of origins that are not being answered in today’s churches. Many will be unable to reconcile what they believe about the Bible with what they learn in science class. If we give a one-dimensional view of the Bible and never discuss the historical aspects, it becomes more and more difficult for them to take the Bible seriously in the face of criticism and ridicule from the secular community.

4.      The Big Picture is not shown
When we teach the Bible as a collection of “stories” we fail to convey the full scope of the Biblical account. The Bible does have individual accounts that are of use in themselves. But an important part of Biblical literacy is understanding the Bible as a single, coherent, historical narrative that gives the account of God’s work throughout history. The Bible was designed, not just to give us moral lessons or tell us how to be saved (although those are, obviously, very important), but to reveal to us God Himself. You have to get a bigger perspective of the whole Bible and its context in order to see the full message.


These four points are some of the major reasons why the Bible must be taught realistically, with its historical context, rather than as a series of stories. Not only is Biblical literacy at stake, but the very minds and souls of the next generation. Christianity is under fire. The Bible is being ridiculed in every corner of our society. Let’s not give the enemy any ammunition by contributing misinformation. Let’s not perpetuate the simplistic and unrealistic fairy tale type Bible stories. Let’s promote serious study and discussion of the word of God at every age. It is sorely needed.

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