I like that word "together." I like being a team with my husband. I
like the way we make decisions together, spend time together, work together, relax
together, and dream together. Marriage is a wonderful thing.
People often say that
the spark will fade eventually, that the excitement of being married will die.
Well, so far, it hasn't happened to us. Being with my husband and sharing life
together still thrills me. My heart still does little flip flops when he looks
at me or touches me. It's a little different now than when we were first
married, because we're used to each other. But it hasn't grown old or stale. It
just gets better because we know each other even better. Our intimacy has grown
and deepened. We're more a part of each other now than we've ever been and we
love each other more than ever. I hope we always feel this way about each other
(and I think we will, as long as we take time to appreciate each other).
Two years ago, on our
wedding day, we were so in love and excited to be finally married. We were finally
free to jump into life together with gusto, finally free to express the desires
of our hearts. But our love is deeper now, and stronger, than it was then. We
know each other better now. Then, we had the thrill of the unknown and the
excitement of discovery. Not that we were strangers. On the contrary, we knew
each other quite well. But there’s a certain knowing that only comes from
living together day in and day out, seeing each other in every aspect of life, being
one. This more mature love doesn’t have to replace the old excitement (at least
not completely). It was meant to add to the love that a husband and wife share.
And it just gets better and better as time goes on.
A lot has happened
these last two years. The biggest change was the arrival of our little girl
last November. A baby sure changes things. But having a child doesn’t have to drive
a wedge between a husband and wife. We’ve actually found that we’ve grown
closer as we learn to be parents together. We’ve had to be careful to always
put each other first, even over being a parent, and to talk things over
together. Making time for each other can be difficult at times. Reagan has a
knack for waking up at the most inopportune moments. But spending time together
is a priority for us and we make it happen on a regular basis.
I think one secret to
keeping the spark alive is to take time to appreciate each other. If you take
each other for granted, if you forget to be thankful for each other, it’s so
much easier to become dissatisfied and discouraged. A grateful heart is a happy
heart. That’s true in general, but especially true in marriage. And, of course,
it’s not enough to simply feel grateful – you have to tell each other of your
appreciation. This can be done through words, gestures, and even writing love notes (yes, I took my own advice and wrote one for my husband yesterday). My
husband and I take time to tell each other of our love and appreciation on a
regular basis and it has kept us close.
So, here we are
beginning our third year of marriage. I’m looking forward to what this next
year will bring. I’m confident that this year will be even better than the last
– that we will grow even closer to each other as we learn even more about each
other. It is our desire and plan to spend the rest of our lives learning to
love each other more.
How about you? What
tips do you have for keeping the spark alive in a marriage?
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Hope you got my voice mail I left you yesterday. We are proud of you and the strong marriage you and Doug have. Doug is a great father. I was watching the video on Facebook of him chasing Reagan around the house. Making some great memories. Keep up the good advice and the great recipes.
ReplyDeleteYes, I got the voicemail. Thanks for the encouragement.
DeleteIt sounds like you have an awesome start to your marriage! This is my and my husband's 16th year of marriage and 22nd year together. And, you're right, it just keeps getting better. The longer the love lingers, the stronger and more comforting it grows. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on marriage and giving me the opportunity to say "Happy Anniversary" to someone who really appreciates their marriage and their husband! And thanks for linking up with NOBH - Smiles -
ReplyDeleteThanks Amy! Thanks for stopping by.
DeleteCongrats on two years! We just celebrated 6 years on Monday (June 4th). :-)
ReplyDeleteOur secret is to make sure you make time to have fun together. Have an adventure. Do something new. For example, I had a blast learning to ski with my husband this year.
Our marriage gets better and better every year, but it definitely requires work and communication. Communication is another key to a happy marriage. :-)
God bless!
I totally agree with you, Amanda. My husband and I do lots of fun things together. We like hiking together, we like reading books together, we like having long discussions about politics or Biblical worldview. We find that we have more fun doing things together than we do when we're apart. We also relax better when we're together. And you're right that communication is very important also. Communication is key in any relationship, but is especially important in a marriage. Congrats you and your husband on your 6 years of marriage!
DeleteHi Lindsay, I'm hopping over from WLW!
ReplyDeleteCongrats on your anniversary! We'll be celebrating 25 years this September and it's definitely a journey. We were in our late 20s when we got married and thought we knew a thing or two about relationships. HA. But we serve a God who really DOES know, and teaches us about forgiveness and grace and mercy and restoration... so many wonderful and interesting and challenging times are ahead for you. My best advice: WALK WITH HIM and don't sweat the small stuff!
Hugs from VA,
Susan